{"id":548,"date":"2015-01-26T21:52:48","date_gmt":"2015-01-26T21:52:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/aztherapyhelp.cliftonbatchelor.com\/?p=548"},"modified":"2015-02-09T12:16:09","modified_gmt":"2015-02-09T19:16:09","slug":"how-do-i-become-more-self-confident","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/how-do-i-become-more-self-confident\/","title":{"rendered":"HOW DO I BECOME MORE SELF CONFIDENT?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I AM WHO MY FEELINGS TELL ME I AM<\/strong><\/p>\n

More than ever, it seems that our self-image is at risk of becoming whatever our emotions tell us it is. We are prone to subject our self-concept to the emotions we experience when we use others as a mirror of ourselves, and so often see ourselves to be what we THINK others see us to be. When we doubt the ability of our mind to tell us what is true and right, independent of what others say or what we think they think, our tendency is to surrender our minds to our emotions, since they seem to have authority that our intellect lacks. Social interaction, particularly and more recently social media, has made it even more likely we will surrender our minds to our emotions. Social media permits all users to \u201cmanage\u201d their image, to permit others to see only what they want them to see. You place high value on the number of \u201clikes\u201d. It becomes social capital. And if you don\u2019t have enough of it, you think poorly of yourself. In our day and age, our need to be \u201cas good as\u201d or \u201cbetter than\u201d, whether we experience those emotions face to face or virtually, has trapped us into feeling anxious and stressed about what we think of ourselves.<\/p>\n

THE TRAP: I\u2019M NOT \u201cWHATEVER\u201d ENOUGH!<\/strong><\/p>\n

We have convinced ourselves that we can never be good enough, thin enough, successful enough, rich enough, pretty or good-looking enough, smart enough, and so many other \u201cnot-something-enoughs\u201d. In our desire for social acceptance, we are enslaved and trapped by our emotions as we make irrational comparisons of what we selectively believe ourselves to be, based on what we think others believe us to be, to what we selectively choose to believe others are. Self-confidence, self-identity, self-worth, self-discipline, and self-esteem can only be discovered and strengthened when we escape the trap.<\/p>\n

CORE VALUES<\/strong><\/p>\n

The ability to like yourself, and to be confident about yourself, is so very dependent on you knowing what your core values are. How do you know what your core values are. Read the following statements, and decide if you agree or disagree. Your agreement or disagreement is determined by your core values.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It\u2019s okay to go to bed without having brushed your teeth.
\n\u2022 Same sex marriages should be legal in every country worldwide.
\n\u2022 It\u2019s totally acceptable to pick your nose in a public place.
\n\u2022 Life should mean life in a prison sentence.
\n\u2022 An eye for an eye. A tooth for a tooth.
\n\u2022 Eye contact must be made at all times.
\n\u2022 Money doesn\u2019t buy happiness.
\n\u2022 All politicians are liars.
\n\u2022 All religions cause wars.
\n\u2022 It\u2019s survival of the fittest.<\/p>\n

Core values \u2013 they are the unspoken rules, regulations, terms, and conditions you have agreed to live by. They act like an internal navigation system. They guide and even determine the choices you make, how you behave, how you live your life. Some will serve you, others will hinder you. Some will be rigid and unalterable, others will be more pliable. Some you inherited, others you learned as you went. Some have changed or will change over time, others will have grown stronger. Core value work is the core work of liking yourself.<\/p>\n

Core value work is the core work of building self-esteem: the ability to like yourself, be confident in yourself, respect yourself \u2013 from the inside.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The ability to like yourself, and to be confident about yourself, is so very dependent on you knowing what your core values are. Core value work is the core work of building self-esteem: the ability to like yourself, be confident in yourself, respect yourself \u2013 from the inside.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":788,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/548"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=548"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/548\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":731,"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/548\/revisions\/731"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/788"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=548"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=548"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/therapythatworks.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=548"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}